There are so many opportunities presented to us every day. It is quite amazing. They always come from other people.
We live within a huge and complex social network. Almost everything we achieve in life is through other people. Whether it be a job offer, a close relationship or a great idea. This is why building relationships with other people is the most important skill you can have.
First we need to see the opportunity. This is where most people stop. They just don’t see it. We need to see almost every decision is in some way linked to following or creating new opportunities.
Second, we need to pursue the opportunity. We need to have the confidence to fully explore this path. Sometimes this requires some (real or perceived) risk, sometimes none at all. We need to assess whether the risk is worth the potential reward. But most of all we need to throw away fears and counter mental laziness by being mindful and putting in our energy until we are satisfied.
These days I find myself constantly looking for and trying to create new opportunities. When I see them I throw myself fully into them.
For Example (not perfected all these things yet):
- When meeting a new person who could become a close friend I can be a bit more full on than is the social standard. Go go strongly for them, I don’t muck around. I give them the picture of who I am and allow them to respond as they desire. I will continue to follow up with them until a solid connection is made or I am satisfied that this path is not going anywhere.
- Not saying no to an invitation just because I lack some energy at that particular moment. You never know what amazing things could eventuate.
- Always trying to engage in a positive way with every person I meet even if I am deep down disinterested. You never know what hidden surprises there could be.
- Reading and looking for great ideas in books and other media.
This forceful continuous search for opportunities has lead me to amazing new friends, a great career and opportunities for living in a few different countries so far.
Don’t forget that you are also a provider of opportunities for other people as well, so be generous!
We make our own luck!