Why be upset by a person’s words? If a person says what they genuinely believe, why be upset to hear it?
Maybe it is the intent that we should care about. Is the intent to help or to harm?
Maybe it is the actions we should care about. Don’t actions show what a person really thinks and feels?
The lower the self-esteem of a person and the more insecurities they have – the easier they are upset. The words are an assault on their fragile egos.
We need to be careful how we listen to and observe people. We often hear their words and see their actions through our own biased lens. We give our own meanings to them without properly interpreting theirs.
Instead we should focus on understanding “why” they are saying or doing something. What do they mean by it? Only then can we truly understand.
If we let insecurities and emotions get in the way we will have a communication break down – this is never a good thing.
If you are secure in yourself then a person expressing their perceptions of you or anything else should always be welcomed – even if you don’t agree!
The key here is to communicate until you can reach understanding. Not communicating with someone is not caring about them.