Monthly Archives: October 2013

Imagine you are playing tennis. The ball gets hit right at you. You go to hit it back but you miss! You thought you were going to hit it. But your eyes deceive you and it smacks you right in the face. How strange. You thought you were going to hit it but you were suddenly shocked when your perceptions were brought into line. You just got hit in the face by reality.

Guess what? Reality is what happens outside of your head, outside of your little bubble. There are other people and other things. You may interpret and perceive them through your senses and your mind. But that doesn’t change the fact that what’s real is real.

Your perception may be your reality. But it is not THE reality.

There is only one objective reality, so try get in touch with it and end your suffering (that’s the tricky part).

“it’s hard to stay mad when there’s so much beauty in the world. Sometimes I feel like I’m seeing it all at once, and it’s too much. My heart fills up like a balloon that’s about to burst. And then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold on to it, and then it flows through me like rain, and I can’t feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life. You have no idea what I’m talking about, I’m sure. But don’t worry. You will someday.”

American Beauty (1999)

I have been sponsoring a little girl in India for the past 3 years. Why?

Because for such a small amount of money you can change not just one life but the life of the family, community and the next generation in a HUGE way. It seems almost an obligation to me.

Stop for a second. Pretend you are one of these girls. Imagine you are now magically are receiving education, health care and clean water. How would you feel?

If you sponsor a girl then she will be healthy and educated. And this will have flow on effects to her children – kicking off a virtuous chain reaction which ripples through the generations to come.


Why? – This is the most important question that exists.

All too often our thoughts are simplistic and shallow. Children always ask “why?”. A common game that children like is to ask why continuously to every new answer you give in a long chain of interrogation. Much to the parent’s annoyance of eventually having to admit their ignorance when the questions become too difficult.

I think if we ask ourselves and others “why?” more often we can solve a lot of problems.

Racism/nationalism/patriotism, biases, heuristics, logical fallacies are just some categories of simplistic thinking. It is the root of the majority, if not all, of problems in the world caused by humans upon other humans.

Why not?
Why do I think this?
Why do I feel this?
Why do you think this?
Why do you feel this?
Why does this matter?
Why doesn’t this matter?

If we ask questions like this more often we can get a better grasp on reality and improve our relationships with ourselves and others.

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